Some things in life are absolutely certain, including death, taxes and winters in Canada being colder than many would like. Taxes are easy enough to deal with (when done properly), and you can always put on a sweater… but there is just no avoiding death. With death comes many emotions, including anger, grief and acceptance. Grief is typically the most difficult emotion to deal with, as it is typically an unfamiliar and uncomfortable feeling. Grieving, however, is a perfectly normal and natural part of life.
Grieving is an extremely personal and highly individual experience. The way that you grieve depends on many factors, including your personality and coping style, your life experiences, your faith and the nature of the loss. The important thing to remember is that the grieving process takes time. Healing of any kind happens gradually. There is no “normal” timetable or schedule for grieving. Some people start to feel better in weeks or months. For others, the grieving process is measured in years. Whatever your grief experience, it’s important to be patient with yourself and allow the process to naturally unfold.
Everyone’s experience with death is as unique as they are, and their understanding of it is equally their own. The tough part is learning to accept, and even eventually feel good, about the loss. But why should we mourn the deaths of our loved ones if we are not also willing to celebrate their lives?
Celebrating someone’s life is a wonderful way to appreciate everything that they brought to the world while they were in it. This is quite simply accomplished by little things, such as keeping pictures of your deceased loved ones around your house, sharing your memories of them with others, or preserving something special that they created or did. This will forever remind us that death is never final – we all live on in the memories and hearts of our loved ones.
Remember that there is no time limit on grieving – everyone has to go through it on their own time. For some the process takes days, while for others it can be months or even years that they will feel the sting of the loss. Always just remember that everyone has a support network on friends and family that they can turn to when the pain of the loss gets to be too great. They will help you through it, as well as help you to process and deal with the emotions that it brings up.
Death is never final – we live on in the memories and the hearts of our loved ones.
Written by Veronika for Motivational Moments